Dying with regrets.

Just watched, yet another, hyped up video inviting us all to live our life to it’s fullest, so that we may die without regrets.

Let me tell you a story.

An old man shares his biggest regret with a neighbor at the retirement home. “I regret never having a family of my own” he says with a sigh. “I have lived all my life in a quiet solitude. There is no one to come and see me now and I feel all alone.” he continues.

His neighbor replies: “I started my family early, in my twenties. I got married and we soon had two children, an oldest boy and a younger girl. All my life I worked hard to support my family. After two decades together my wife left me and broke and heartbroken. My son got into drugs and was a constant worry for me until the day that he died from an overdose. My daughter always felt that I cared more for her brother and learned to hate me. I have not seen her in years. I have a grandson, but I have only seen him once at my son’s funeral.” After a long silence he continued: “I wish that I never had a family. I could have lived a fuller life, traveled and filled my days with things that I like, instead of just working hard for others.”

The problem with regrets is that a person would focus on an action that was not taken and associate it with a best case scenario outcome.

It’s kind of like saying: “I wish I bought a lottery ticket last night. Today I would have been a millionaire.”. Although it would be one of the possibilities it is far from a guaranteed one.

The only way to die without regrets is to teach oneself not to regret anything.